Joined: Jun 06, 2007
Posts: 2363
Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia
Posted:
Sun Feb 14, 2010 8:29 pm
February 14th
Recently I had a girl ask me, "do you hate women?". This question made me to put on the "nigga please face" (my neck cocked back, my eyes squinted, my forehead furrowed up, and my mouth smirked) for a second, but then the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it was a pretty fair question to ask. After all, one of my favorite things to do in this world is pontificate about issues between men and women, and as a man who has no problem expressing how he feels, I can understand how my passionate monologues might make me seem like a mega hater. I also don't like to hold back from the full power of the English language, so I have no problem using words like bitch, ho, skeezer, broad, skank, slut, scallywag and whore whenever they apply, which usually doesn't go over too well with women. None of this means that I hate women, though! I use words like lady, woman, queen, peach, angel, sweetie, foxy mama, sweetheart and honeypie, too, and the reason that I talk so openly about the problems between the two sexes is because I'm trying to build a better understanding! I figure that way, we'll all have a better chance of finding the partner that suits us best (if you're still in the stage of fiendin' for hoes or chasin' down dick, you might not want to bother reading on), instead of wasting time on goofy bitches and trife ass hoes (women, feel free to insert your own "man disses")! There are just way too many crossed wires between men and women, and I think that I might be able to uncross some of them with this writing.
Offering oral sex isn't gonna help here, sister! Now get back to untangling those wires, ya hook-nosed whore!
It's no secret that two of the biggest problems between men and women are dishonesty and a lack of good communication. Men and women are rarely honest with each other, which makes the whole "hunt and chase" game into more of a diversion than it already is. Then there's the fact that when it comes to communication, men and women are usually on completely different wavelengths. Following, are a couple of examples in regards to some of these strange patterns.
Most women will force a lie and say anything to make a man feel good and/or "save his feelings". In turn, this usually ends up causing more harm than if they were to be more honest, as well as more careful, with their kind words and flirtatious behavior. This is how women lead men on, whether they realize it or not. When a woman is being overly nice to a man, it's only natural for him to think that she likes him on some level, and even more natural for him to want to make some sort of advance. Sometimes this works because the woman is purposely trying to attract a man that she wants to get close to, but it's never for certain. There have been many times when the man who thought that he had a sure thing, had nothing but the wrong idea. It's very frustrating for a man when this happens, because then he has to deal with two things: a woman boosting her ego by running off at the mouth about this poor, misguided guy who thought that he had a chance, and a woman talking about him as if he were some sort of a creep or idiot for following after her trail of "breadcrumbs" (mixed signals). The audacity of these bitches!
Mixed signals are the leading cause of crashes.
Based on my experiences, it seems that a lot of women drop "breadcrumbs" all over the place in efforts to have as many men after them as possible - even if they have no intention of catering to any of them in any way. Based on the studies that I've done in my lab with beakers and Bunsen burners, "leading on" is the cause of approximately 78% of the problems between men and women. Women also seem to like training men, or as I say, "bitching them up", and sometimes, keeping masses of men after them helps them to figure out who will be the easiest to bitch up. The last one standing (the sucka ass busta who hangs around the longest), is the "winner"...kinda like a Royal Rumble. The way I see it though, a good woman doesn't need to bitch a man up, and a good man won't allow himself to be bitched up by a good woman...or Razor's Edged by anybody, if he can help it.
I'm not trying to say that Jeff Jarrett wasn't a good man in his WWF days, but let's just be honest here - Razor Ramon was way better.
Most men, on the other hand, don't get into thinking too heavily about their feelings, let alone into expressing them. This is how men lead women on, whether they realize it or not. When a man won't discuss how he feels, it's only natural for a woman to be confused and thus not act as boldly as she might if she knew what was going on with the man in question. For some strange reason though, women seem to be drawn to closed-off men. As much as they hate the challenge of trying to figure these dudes out, they love it at the same time. I think it's because a man's arrogance and aloofness comes across as power, and if there's one thing that most women want from a man, it's to feel safe and secure whenever he's around. "If he's being an uninterested jerk, he must be a strong man", is what must go through some of these dizzy broad's heads. The amusing thing about this, is that these same women act surprised when this type of man mistreats them and plays them like nothing more than some dumb hoes...which, by the way, if you often get played like one, you just might be one, ladies. That's why a man might treat you differently (IE: ignore you and cut you off) after he fucks you a couple of times - he came to realize (pun intended) that you had little else to offer him other than something pretty to cum in/on. In other words, if right from the start you praise a man and let him get away with lying and being arrogant and seemingly careless, he's going to know that you're an idiot for allowing yourself to be treated in such a way, and so he's going to treat you accordingly until he gets bored of you and finds him something else to stick his dick into.
If that's not something else to stick a dick into, I don't know what is.
Based off of the examples above, we can see that it's the lack of openness, respect and sincerity on both sides of the playing field that are the cause of so much chaos. It's hard to be aware of this underlying bullshit, but if we can become more aware of this corny behavior when it occurs, we can learn to act, as well as react, more appropriately in different situations. If more men make the effort to stop following after attractive, goofy bitches just for the sake of it, and more women make the effort to stop following after arrogant dickheads just for the sake of it, I think that things would straighten themselves out nicely because a lot of egos that are built up for superficial reasons, would deflate. See, deep down I believe that men know what women do, and vice versa, when it comes to all this shit, but for whatever reason we all continue to play this terrible game. I really don't expect this to dramatically change all over the world, but personally, I don't play shitty games of any sort.
It boggles me to this day that this game exists. Even after all of the shit that the game developers went through, you think that the picture on the box would've been enough for them to say, "Ya know what? Maybe we shouldn't unleash this upon mankind...".
One point that we can't ignore is that for the most part, because of society's ways and gender roles, men like women for different reasons than women like men. You can see proof of this idea in the fact that you will often see a rich, ugly man with a beautiful, model wife, but rarely see a rich, ugly woman with a beautiful, model husband. Hugh Hefner has mad bitches, but the Golden Girls? They didn't do so good...except for the one that had the Southern accent. She took in more cock than a henhouse.
Money can't buy you happiness...but it can buy three, fly ass bitches.
Based off of these different reasons for attraction, there is usually going to be a power struggle in one way or the other. Whether it's a issue because of money and materialism, or because of pussy and beauty, things are bound to get messier than a toddler's birthday bash at a pasta restaurant. It's this surface bullshit - beauty, sex, money, cars, etc. - that seems to cause this power struggle and blur the vision of men and women to the point of utter blindness. Too often, both genders overlook the more important, helpful traits, because of things like physical attraction, sexual desire, and the prospect of material gain. This is not to deny that the physical attraction has to be there, or to deny that money and things are advantageous, but when they're the strongest basis by which we choose a partner we're bound to face a lot of disappointment. As a person gets older and goes through more experiences, though, they will usually learn what it is that really matters; things like honesty, humility, stability, security, ambition, compassion, and so on.
I am of the firm belief that when it comes to relationships (including friendships), a person should only bother with those who put in as much effort as they do. If I may speak from a man's point of view for a moment here, it's usually a very one-sided, uphill battle for a man, and a lot of the time that battle doesn't pay off. I consider the video game "Donkey Kong" to be a perfect metaphor for what a man goes through to impress a girl. Mario is dodging barrels and fireballs, climbing ladders and doing all sorts of other ill shit just to get to an attractive woman that he doesn't even know! He doesn't even know if he LIKES this bitch yet and he's putting his life on the line for her! A man is just expected to do so much to win a woman over, and unfortunately, the "prize" is usually some mediocre sex from a generally unlikable girl. This prize is good enough for awhile, and maybe even forever depending on the individual's life plans, but there often comes a time in every man's life when he doesn't want to waste any more time and money when he could just jerk off, order a pizza, and then play Xbox. What I'm getting at, in my round-a-bout way, is that a good woman should meet a good man halfway. Otherwise, there will be a lack of balance, and anything that is unbalanced, whether it's a Lego castle or a relationship, will eventually come crashing down.
Whenever you feel like a girl is trying to play you, just remember this picture and then think to yourself: "Is getting her in my life worth going through ladders, barrels, fire, and an angry gorilla?"
I could go on and on but I don't feel like writing a whole book on this topic right now so I'm gonna stick a fork in it and hope that some of this rambling is useful to someone in some way. That said, I guess it's time for a simple, to-the-point conclusion. I think that in order for men and women to understand each other better and have more worthwhile relationships, we need to not only recognize the bullshit that we do ourselves, but also stop putting up with the bullshit from each other. Doing so will more than likely make you single for a long ass time, but at least that way it'll be worthwhile when you find someone because you'll have found them by not playin'! Happy Valentine's Day!
Mario and Donkey Kong have finally reached an agreement: getting hammered and then taking turns plowing Princess Peach in her hiney is much better than fighting over her.
Man... This is probably my favourite reading. I was like "Yes. This is what I was thinking.".
Women being honest is good for me. I'd rather take a sweet honest girl then some broad who's just a C Unit. I don't hate women in general. I just hate the ones who just give women a bad name. Like the ones who just date the men who have the fancy cars, douche bag fashion, borderline bald hair.
Then again I haven't been so Saint-like. When I'm single. Like me I just go for the best looking girl to me. I've made a few fuck ups back when I was younger. Now that I'm older and wiser. I find if I go someplace and I see some good looking girl. I find I approach her just because I'm attracted. Though if she's sketchy or looks like a ditz. I avoid such women.
However now that I have a girl of my own. So a relationship for me doesn't hold pressure. Having a girl becomes routine for me. As for honesty. That's probably the strongest key in any relationship be it sexual or simply platonic.
As for being single. I've learned something about myself. I hate being single. It sucks. Just because you have to do the whole initial routine. You know "Believe in the reason of pursuing, manning up to ask this girl, see how you like her, get to know her and if it fails then "Meh, next!". Then the moment of triumph. When the woman seems alright. You cheer inside your mind.
Also where I live. Women aren't really that of heartier stock. So if I find a girl I like. I better get on her before a douche bag does.
I don't hate women, it's just that I've had a girl who was a little older than me when I was at the age of 14, and I didn't know what to do and our 'relationship' only lasted a few days.
9 years later, I'm just stuck here, single, and it made me realize that maybe if I do want somebody to know how I feel and share how special she is, I need to step up and do something about it.
I don't mind being single, but I become a full-blown hypocrite by saying that I want to be with a woman. I think that what happened 9 years ago just tore me up inside and just made me want to look at those who are in a relationship.
With the cardio I'm doing and the planned workout later on, I might try to socialize a bit and see how it pays off.
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While back few soul crushing experiences happen which hindered me talking to women ever since, back at school meh nothing happened i could care less despite the hormones. Left school got into my 1st relationship which didn't last too long wernt feeling it. 1st major fuck up in my life was 17 was really into this girl we got along alright that was some bullshit i was feeling but on peek on about be going out she suddely decided to turn lesbo on me. Seriously am not fucking joking so as can imagin really tore me up inside i remember that day being violently sick i was drunk at the time and like boom ...
Then came my 18th year on this planet took a fancie to someone a friend of mine knew on 1st day we meet we got off and felt alright took a liking to her however never got a clear message from her it confussed me and i confussed her and didn't kick off in the end. Really starting to tear into me all this pressure i seriously began liking her but as days turned to weeks i began to relsie the enfitale truth that it never going to be.
Until i meet this other girl, a friend of the same friend and wow ... just wow never had such feeling come to mind in my life. We got along and went out with eachother, while it lasted it felt so good i thought i finally found someone and all the wait was going to pay off ... that was until she dumbed me -_-' yea aprently she was too depressed to keep up a relationship. Then came 5th day she told me she finally over her depression and on the 7th day started going out with her best friend.
This shit fucked me up
Reptile Optimus Prime
Joined: Jul 26, 2007
Posts: 2013
Location: NOYB
Posted:
Wed Feb 17, 2010 5:04 pm
Zaiba wrote:
I have to say Rep. That's pretty rough at 14. I mean surely you've had a couple of others in those 9 years. Otherwise that's just shitty.
It was and I agreed to myself that making myself happy for that period, aka "The Me Years" although now I think it's time to think more realistic instead of just the video game world.
Although, I'd have to be less dependent on video games and try to think more how I will be doing to get some experience points in the "combat field".
Well, being attached has it's ups and downs. I mean when you got a girl. She's there for you. If you play your cards right. She's happy and you're happy. However being in a shitty relationship is something I never want. So it's like this. I'm either in a awesome relationship or I'm single.
Joined: Jun 06, 2007
Posts: 2363
Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia
Posted:
Tue May 25, 2010 8:55 pm
Zaiba wrote:
Well, being attached has it's ups and downs. I mean when you got a girl. She's there for you. If you play your cards right. She's happy and you're happy. However being in a shitty relationship is something I never want. So it's like this. I'm either in a awesome relationship or I'm single.
That's what I'm sayin' too...if she doesn't make me a better man, I don't need her.
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